What not to say to a SOON to be bride!

Being the planner and perfectionist that I am, I have had most everything planned out and ready for months. Now that the wedding is only 23 days away, I thought everything was good to go until the comments and questions started coming from others within the last week. Now my brain is playing cruel tricks on me. As a result, I've come up with a very important list of things NEVER to say to a woman who is getting married in near future.

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Question: "So, are you ready?" 
My Response: "Yes, I'm now just anxiously awaiting the big day!" 
My Brain: "Am I ready? Uh oh, I actually still have a lot to do! Can I get it done in time? Am I going to have time to sleep/enjoy the next 3 weeks? What if I forget to do something important? OH CRAP, we don't have a marriage license yet!"


Comment: "I don't see how you aren't stressed about not having a wedding dress yet." 
My Response: "I just have a much better feeling about this one, and I have full confidence in my mom." 
My Brain: "Even though I feel confident, what if it doesn't work? How will I get a dress with 2 weeks to go. This NEEDS to work!"

Question: "Are you getting Nervous?" 
My Response: "A little, I'm just excited for the day to get here." 
My Brain: "I'm marrying my best friend who I've been with for 6.5 years. Why should I be nervous about that? Wait, I'm going to have to be the center of attention in front of 100 guests. Maybe I should be nervous!"

Comment: "You must be freaking out!" 
My Response: "No, actually I think everything is all set to go." 
My Brain: "Should I be freaking out? Is everything REALLY all set to go? Holy CRAP I'm getting married in a few weeks. AHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!"


With that being said, I suggest the following comments when speaking with a bride to be about an upcoming wedding:

"It's going to be great, I can't wait."
"You are going to have a great time. Enjoy your day."
"Everything is going to come together beautifully."
"Just remember, the day is about you and __________."
...and what ever bride likes to hear: "You are going to be a beautiful bride!"

Everything Happens for a Reason: A dress Update

Not only was it my wedding shower this weekend, but it was also supposed to be my final dress fitting. First off, let me give you a run down of the dress making proccess:
   August: Tried on dresses to see what looked good
   September: Bought pattern/fabric from a very RUDE woman at Jo-Ann's in Auburn
   December: Practice dress was complete and a success
   February: Actual dress was complete, but did not fit right
   March: Second dress fitting, realized the entire thing needed to be taken apart and put back together
   April: Sewing machine died and had to buy a new one.
   Yesterday: Tried on dress again, after 4 more attempts to fix it, decided to cut our losses.

After 9 months of planning for this dress, we now have less then 5 weeks to begin a new plan. Here is how it happened:
   May 19th 9PM: Searched online for a new pattern
   May 19th 9:10PM: Were both drawn to a brand new pattern, and knew instantly it was the one
   May 20th 10:00AM: Bought everything needed at Jo-Ann's from Portland from the nicest, most helpful women.
   May 20th 10:45AM: Mom and I drove home with no more dress stress (hey, that rhymed) and with a tremendous amount of excitement
   June 2nd: First dress fitting (fingers crossed)
   June 8th: Final dress fitting (fingers crossed)

This time around my mom will be using a pattern, and we both see little room for error. While we were pretty bummed all that time and effort went down the drain, we are convinced everything happens for a reason. Nothing went well in the process the first go-around, and now everything just feels right. This dress is even more nontraditional then the first, and I couldn't be happier. With 34 days to go, I'm getting very excited, and it's feeling very real. A special thanks to to the many people that made this a FANTASTIC weekend!


For all of you who love a deal:
First Dress (R.I.P.): $25
New Dress: $35
That's a total of $60 for TWO dresses! I'm thinking that's still pretty fantastic!